I feel the urge to blog again. It just hits me randomly… usually when I have a lot of other things I should be doing. :) But then, that’s the nature of my life. One must learn to create time for things one enjoys, right?
But since the urge has been random, expect a long, random post. Truthfully, most of the things happening in my life right now are not blog material. So, welcome to Carolyn’s lightweight labyrinth. The topic of the day? Believe it or not… relationships. *shock* You thought you’d never see this one.
I was talking to a friend the other day about “requirement lists.” Yeah, come on, girls… don’t pretend you don’t have one buried at the back of your closet…or at least at the back of your mind. These are those infamous lists most of us wrote in high school. Often, they are updated multiple times as we meet new people or learn new things about ourselves and others. They usually go something like: Prince Charming must 1. Be perfect. 2. Believe that I’m perfect even when I’m not.
Oh, and hopefully godliness makes an appearance somewhere near the beginning of the list as well. Some girls have more mature lists, but ultimately, those are the boiled down basics.
Then, after a while, we realize there aren’t any perfect guys (sorry, fellas) and we aren’t perfect either (pretty far from it, actually) and we start scratching requirements off like crazy. Tall, dark and handsome? Blond, bronzed and built? Er… how about… has a nice smile? :) By this point, mine says something like: I don’t drink, smoke or chew and I won’t go with boys that do. Ha. Just kidding. You’ll never see my list. :) Oh, and by the way… my list never said any of the above things. I found it last week. It actually had some pretty decent stuff on it. I was proud of my freshman self.
But let us not pretend that guys don’t have their checklists as well. Why, let’s just ask Signor Benedick.
“One woman is fair, yet I am well; another is wise, yet I am well; another virtuous, yet I am well; but till all graces be in one woman, one woman shall not come in my grace. Rich she shall be, that’s certain; wise, or I’ll none; virtuous, or I’ll never cheapen her; fair, or I’ll ever look on her; mild, or come not near me; noble, or not I for an angel; of good discourse, an excellent musician, and her hair shall be of what color it please God.” – Much Ado About Nothing
Haha… love it. Especially considering the woman he ends up with. He did pretty well, except for the “mild” line.
All these things are well and good… but lists can never create love. I would bet that you could find someone who fits every category to a tee and lines up perfectly with your life… and somewhere along the way, you’ll find they are very unlovable. Of course, they’ll discover the same thing about you. And you’ll wonder what on earth you were thinking…and then you’ll make a choice. You’ll look in yourself and find nothing left to give. Then you’ll choose to walk away or to let God love through you.
Fortunately, I don’t have to go through that yet. :) Haha… “perfect or come not near me.” What? You didn’t actually think I was going to let this post get serious, did you? Certainly not. Not on a Garfieldian Monday like today. We’ll save that for other conversations. For indeed, as Beatrice would say, “I beseech your Grace pardon me. I was born to speak all mirth and no matter.”